My Next 30 Years

It amazes me how many times in life I have looked back at my ignorance when I thought I had it all figured out. Even as an adult I can recall several memories that show my immaturity. I can only guess how many more times in my life I will experience this phenomenon. I suppose that is one of the blessings of growing old. To be able to look back and grow from your experiences. I will soon be over thirty and this year has been different from the rest in so many ways. I wish to share with you five things I have learned that changed my perspective of the world.

Number one, do not pour into cups that have no interest in pouring into yours.  I am not speaking of lending a helping hand to those that are down on their luck. I believe God has ways of using those who listen to help people that will never be able to repay. I am speaking about the people close to you in everyday life. Do not give and give until nothing remains, if that person is not willing to give to you also. Doing so will only leave you feeling underappreciated and worthless. Just because my heart feels big enough to fit the whole world doesn’t mean it has to.

Number two, you are either growing toward God or you’re growing away from him. I have actively been trying to strengthen my faith and build my relationship with God. I have come to understand that it takes conscious effort every day to establish a habit. God will never be the center of my life if I do not refocus my attention back to Him every time it drifts elsewhere.

When I am anxious, nervous or worried I should pray. When I am planning or making decisions I should ask for His guidance. When I am discouraged I should ask for his strength. When I am happy I should remember to thank him. Every aspect of my life should come through Him first. It is in our Father that we find comfort, peace, clarification and understanding. Each day is a choice, we are either growing toward him or away from him, not somewhere in-between.

Number three, prioritize yourself everyday. Make sure everyday to take at least five minutes to do something enjoyable. Even if it is locking the bathroom door to gain a few moments of peace. Read a book, paint a picture, watch a sunset, do something that is considered an outlet. It is impossible to continue to pour from an empty cup and expect to be at your best. The dishes can wait a few more minutes, the kids can watch TV for just a little bit longer. Do not deny yourself simple pleasures.

Number four, never stop dreaming. It is healthy and motivating to have dreams. It doesn’t matter how small or big it is, just dream. I would love to own a Victorian style house one day. I aspire to know the Bible so well I can recall each and every verse. I have many other dreams that push me to do better each and every day. It is uplifting to have goals and ambitions to work toward. Accomplishments in return create growth, maturity and confidence.

Number 5, all I have is from God and He is in control. I am fortunate to be able to go to the grocery store without much of a budget. I have a roof over my head and my children want for nothing. However I didn’t get here by myself. I am fully aware everything I have is a blessing from God. From my income stability, my health, my family, my career, all are perfect examples of God’s blessing. I did not get here on my own and I will never forget that.

I have also come to understand that He is in control of my life. I have free will, I am able to make choices and influence many things, but ultimately God is in control. I was adamant from a young age that I only wanted two kids. My third pregnancy rocked me to my core and crashed my world around me, or so it seemed at first. Just when I thought I had it all figured out my stability crumbled. My baby girl is now four months old and it’s incredible the changes in perspective I have witnessed in the last six months. God knew what I needed. It may not always align  with my wants and desires but I trust His plan. I have heard that if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans. I am sure He has chuckled at me a few times. I hope these words of wisdom find you well and encourage you to do better.